You want us as men to follow your whims and understand where you come from when you are agitated and bothered with us and our actions, yet you choose not to focus on the most significant details on what triggers us.
We, as men, have female friends. In the greatest picture, you are the only girl that can ever be “wifey” in our eyes, no matter how close these other girls are.
They can run up and give us the biggest hug in the world and embrace us, but the only embrace that causes true happiness is that of our queens. It makes us feel as though we are doing our job as kings.
Jealousy is something that should never affect you because of the fact that if we wanted someone else, we would be with someone else.
When we argue to tell you that you should not be jealous, it makes you think that we are taking the other girl’s side. WE’RE NOT! We love you too much for the other girl to matter.
I have to say that it is wrong to say that another girl is pretty in front of you, but she knows that you are the future mother of my child and that crushes her more than anything that would harm you.
And before you call yourself getting mad about that: we know that you look too and you would fuck these men in your mind without second thought (Don Omar, Morris Chestnut or generally any sexy guy), so let’s not play those games
I must say that we are often short-sighted. We cannot see the forest through the trees, so we can use a little guidance. Don’t be afraid to stick your hand out and say “come this way”; we will follow.
Let me make something clear: it is because of the CHEATING men in the world that you females worry when we talk to a female at two in the morning. Every man is NOT LIKE THAT!
In our minds, these females are no different from any male that we would normally speak to. Not every female is a threat to the relationship; THE MAN’S WEAKNESS OF HEART AND MIND is the threat.
We think that everything is ok until we wind up in another female’s bed and end up asking ourselves, “Why am I here and what did I do?” But not every man is like that.
Sometimes, you must consider this: If you were doing your job, would anyone, man or female, really HAVE to cheat?
Some of us can take our temptation and cut it loose from us because we want that warming hug and kiss from our queens; it’s something that can never be compared to anything OR ANYONE else.
Social events are social events. They are meant for us to be SOCIAL, but we must be respectful to you at all times. YOU must do the exact same thing.
If you know you don’t want us dancing with anyone at your social event, don’t dance with anyone else but your man then. It makes it easier and you won’t be hypocritical.
Something I must touch on: MEN HAVE FEELINGS TOO!
Some of us are afraid to admit it to you because we are often too cocky to let it be known. Some of us will let you know immediately. Don’t hurt us (and y’all do it quite easily).
And just because you are upset about something, it does not take total precedence over my being hurt by anything that you say or do.
Don’t bottle your feelings up. What? Is it because you are a female that you feel as though that is ok to do? As soon as we do it, you get ready to break our necks!
Make us feel wanted. If you want us to want something, you have to want it as well. Make sense?
Independence is a scary concept. It is ok for your job, it is ok for your social life, but not for THE RELATIONSHIP! Two independent people together is a travesty waiting to happen for there will be NO ROOM for COMPROMISE!
Sometimes, it is not what we want. It is what YOU want. It is ok to ask us to do things for you. Even when you feel as though it is no point. We are YOURS. Make us feel as such.
NOW THIS IS TO THE GUYS:
If you know that you have been messing up and you know that you have not done your fair share, don’t complain when that woman walks out on you and does not care about your feelings. Hold onto her and treat her like the queen that she is and do not do any less. Still follow the guidelines above and understand that you are a person within the relationship too. Do not feel as though you have to be a lap dog for her, or anyone else for that matter unless that is what you feel your position in life is, but everyone is entitled to do as they please. Enjoy yourselves.
- Would You Love to Know Why Men Cheat (pointsofhype.wordpress.com)
- The Inner Workings (kineticscribe.wordpress.com)
- Why Female Soldiers Were Finally Added to Call of Duty’s Multiplayer (kotaku.com)
- Uncomfortable with your Man’s female friend? Join the club! (goodwifetales.wordpress.com)